Instead of the typical unity candle we chose to do a sand ceremony. I bought this frame that has 3 different pieces of glass inside so that I would be able to slide out the front piece to replace it with a wedding picture instead of an engagement picture. We put the sand inbetween the second and third pieces of glass.
Here is the wording we used for our sand ceremony:
________ and _______, you have committed today to share the rest of your lives with each other. You entered this relationship as two distinct individuals, but from this day forth your lives will be combined. This covenant relationship is symbolized through the pouring of the two containers of sand, one representing you, ______, and the other representing you, ______, into a single larger vessel.
As these two containers of sand are poured simultaneously into the third container, the individual vessels of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined as one. (pour sand)
Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual vessels, so will your marriage remain the combination of your two vessels.
You each will remain individuals, with your own uniqueness, but far more important, is the reality that you are no longer two, but one.